Anger is a natural emotion. But how sometimes anger flares up and becomes fits of rage. Here is how other parents sometimes describe these periods of rage:
"He just blows up over the littlest things."
"There's no reasoning or talking with her when she gets that angry."
"It's embarrasing how he can act."
"We feel like we walk around on egg shells all the time."
"After about a hour or two, she calms down and is sorry for getting so mad."
These moments of intense anger or range can be a sign of a mood regulation problem. Mood regulation is like an air condition thermostat. Everyone is set at a different level. Some people have a low level of tolerance, other people have a high level of tolerance.
Problems with frequent outburts of anger can seem like a child's mood thermostat is set too low. Small things can trigger anger frequently and once it goes over a certain poiint, it seems like the child just explodes.
Think again about a thermostat and air conditioner. Many factors decide if an air conditioner will start to blow. Is it 100 degrees outside? How people are there in the house? Are all the doors and windows open? What sort of insulation is in the walls?
Mood regulation can be thought of in the same way. Many factors go into if a child can tolerate certain stresses or not. How's school going? What's going on in the family? What sort of coping skills does a child have?
Learning new coping skills and distraction techniques can be important ways to keep stressors from piling higher. If a mood regulation problem like depression is present than medication can help restore the balance in mood regulation.
Some things to consider:
Try to control your anger as you deal with the problem.
A child might be so upset by something else that they get angry over other little things.
If the periods of rage are frequent and common, a child might have physical mood regulation problem.
Depression can cause a child to be irritable and cranky instead of sad.
ADHD may leave a child unable to deal with too many things at one time and increase their level of frustration.
Consider seeing a doctor or counselor to help evaluate your child's problem with his mood.